OK so a few weeks ago my SIL blasted both Mik and me about the problems we are having in our relationship and how badly we are handling them. She told me how a
like she and I are and how we do the same things and have the same flaws in our dealings with others. She was MEAN! Well today she sent an apology poem which I
will post: Allowing my own personal feelings and opinions to cloud your truths, In hindsight, I realize that your healing and personal growth is solely up to
you two. Pleading a case and my opening arguments in a matter that it was not my place to judge; I was intending to give you both a little push in the right
direction, but it may have felt like a shove. Overstepping the boundaries and lines in the sand, Believe me I have enough problems in my relationship that I
should be focusing on my own man. Letting my love and concern for you and your family override the truth and the facts, Simply said - it's your life, your
marriage, your children; good or bad - imposing relatives just need to step back. Overindulging in issues that were painful and personal, and not being
sensitive to the pressure that they may have imposed; I sincerely apologize for any hurt, confrontation, or wounds that were exposed. Getting in between grown
folks business - as Grandma would say, I just can't image two people having the vision, time and energy to fight the U.S. Supreme Court, But when it comes
to showing compassion and patience with each other's issues and perspectives you both seem to abort. Inserting my challenges, weaknesses and fears into
your marital equation; Even if our issues are the same, we certainly are not in the same situation. Eliminating a fair playing field, as you two were being
asked to focus on your own secret thoughts and feelings in front of each other, But I just want you to remind you that those secrets are the very barriers that
prevent you from being healthy lovers. Saying things that maybe did not need to be said, so next time I'll just quaintly smile, Instead of harshly blurting
out "You are in denial!" My Sincerest Apologies My Sincerest Apologies It spells out APOLOGIES in an acrostic poem. Then she got upset that either of
us had much to say about her apology. I only asked why she insisted we should read it together (it came as an email into both of our boxes) Here's my
problem: I don't think it was much of an apology because some of what she says negates the whole feel of an apology and I really don't see were any of
this has anything to do with us. If you need the other person to have something to say when you apologize, then you are not really sorry about anything you
said or did but are just drawing more attention to yourself. Am I just a biotch?









