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Last year, I worked at a school for parenting teenagers. I was with the girls a lot and played with the babies and talked to the girls about their lives and
futures and all kinds of stuff. I actually ended up getting fired because I made a HUGE mistake trying to help one of the girls. I was stupid and took full
responsibility for being so. I wasn't even mad I got fired just that I was so stupid. Here is my problem now: One of my former students, who has struggled
a lot in her life (been homeless, has a MUCH older mother, never knew her father, never accepted, mentally ill baby's father...) called crying and said
they were going to terminate her parental rights because she is not proving to be a competent parent. She asked me if I would take the baby. Without thinking,
I said of course but I am not sure what is going to happen. I am also not sure that DW will go for this. We are struggling for money right now- although I
think the baby would come with some money for his care since he would be in foster care- but more importantly, DW is feeling overwhelmed and like our
relationship is strained now. I haven't heard from anyone official so I am not sure if she even actually named me his guardian but I may be facing some
touch choices. In my heart, I feel like I cannot turn my back on this kid (either mother or son) but I don't want to ruin my marriage either. HELP!!!
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ronniesaid |
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oh dear, I don't think I can answer that for you. I hope you and DW can work out the best decision together
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navarreflmom |
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I hope all works out the way you want it to in the end!
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GayMom |
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Thanks. I am working it through into my hear to just tell the girl NO. I really feel for her and I am sorry for all that she has gone through. But I have a
strong sense that this would be a situation that would cause some real problems for me and I just can't have that right now. THe child has already been
removed from her and they go to court tomorrow. She'll let me know the outcome but I think I am just going to have to be honest with her that my family
cannot take the strain. I also do not think we legally have the space for another child if this has to go through the courts. Our smallish house already has 6
people! I just hope she doesn't do anything foolish. Another girl I worked with had her son taken from her and she fought for 7 months to get him back. 2
weeks later- she killed him. It broke my heart and I know it lead to some major crack downs so the center is being SUPER careful these days. I don't want
to make anything worse for anyone so I am going to have to just let things take their course without me.
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GayMom |
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Thanks Toni,
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RealtorTTC |
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that is a hard decision but I think you have made the right one
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babyflu |
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Just popping in where I don't really "belong"
It seems as though you've worked it out in your heart. Even if your mind is there helping that girl and her child, it's not what will be best for *your* family... and you obviously have that figured out. Is there some other way you could help this girl? Money, referral to someone who may be able to help her, help pay for rent, etc??? I have no idea what to say... and the other girl (well, baby), that's just TERRIBLE!!!! Poor baby I totally respect your decision and I think it's great that you'd like to help her... that's very commendable! I hope everything works out for them! |
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Any update???? Thinking of you all!!
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GayMom |
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I haven't heard from the girl at all. I am worried but want to respect that she may not want to talk to me. I am sad though. I really wanted to help her. I
really would have taken him if DW had been willing to even consider it. I am sure I might have found some regrets and it would not have been so very easy
though. SIGH i just don't know. My heart really hurts over it.
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