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mrsbiggle |
D & C Over--Emotional Rollcoaster Truly Beginning |
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Fortunately, I am only spotting, and the cramping is comparable to moderate menstrual cramps, but I reach down to my stomach and know there is absolutely
nothing there. Everyone keeps saying, "I'm sorry" or "I don't know what to say" or "It happened for the best". Really,
I'm sure it might have happened for the best, and I'm sure as they are telling me, "That was just your way of getting rid of something that was
going to be wrong", but it hurts to hear that the baby that was growing (however short a time period it was) inside of me was wrong or that I got
"rid" of it and that was "for the best". I know I am not supposed to ask questions, and that I wasn't very far along, but it hurts
deeply and sometimes I just want people to shut up, but I am the type of person who smiles, nods, and says "Thank you." even though I want to reach
through the phone or wherever they are, slap them, and say, "could you please just be quiet?"
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jcvp |
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I know and I am so sorry! Everything that you are feeling is completely normal. (Hugs)
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mrsbiggle |
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Thanks, DeAnn.
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denise622 |
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Gold Member ![]() Over 10,000 posts !!! Oldtimer
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gkmt50 |
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I'm sorry
Words are so hard for people at times of grief. It makes it so much harder on the grieving person, because just like you said, we want to say please shut up, but instead we just "smile" and listen to their dumb words, well meaning though they may be.
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nadya25 |
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No one really knows what to say if they havent been through it. I know what you mean, I felt the same way. This is so hard to go through especially since it
isnt recognized too much as a "true" loss. You know and I know that there is nothing more real than what you just went through. Its going to be a
hard couple months
but know it does get easier, but you never forget. Thats why loss boards are so great for us because we really know what it feels like.
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