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hopeful4baby |
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What is the best parenting advice you have ever received?
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mrsmurphy03 |
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To follow your gut when it comes to your children.
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ronniesaid |
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Platinum Member ![]() Over 30,000 posts !!! Oldtimer
![]() Posts: 37600 09/09/2010 6:47 PM I love a child with autism!
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you know more than you think you know
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beth7919 |
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I can help you! Platinum Member ![]() Over 30,000 posts !!! Oldtimer
![]() Posts: 35364 09/09/2010 9:42 PM Drew's Mommy!
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choose your battles wisely
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emilie42080 |
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I have a few actually:
For the newborn stage: - sleep when baby sleeps - if you feel you're on the verge of breaking down from all the crying, it's okay to lay baby down in its crib and close the door for 15 minutes while you take a bath or do something else to regain your calm For the toddler to kindergarten stage: - be consistent - choose your battles <a href="http://bellybelly.com.au/"><img src="http://bellybelly.com.au/t/mXi3IzGmuR.gif" border="0" /></a>
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tracydeniel |
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-show genuine excitement every morning when your child gets up in the morning (except maybe at 2;00 a.m.) and she will know she is loved.
-cuddle/hug/kiss your child as much as possible (disreguard those who say you are spoiling your baby by holding/cuddling them too much) because you are instilling a sense of security in your child-and soon enough they will grow up and pull away from all your affection. -be consistent (easier said than done unfortunately) -don't worry about the litt le things (choose your battles)-it really doesn't matter if they go to school with 2 different colored socks, or if they refuse to brush their hair one day, or if your son wants to buy the pink ball, etc. |
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Stef17 |
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Live in the moment and don't get caught up with the "my house is a mess" or there's work to be done mindset. They'll only be little once so don't sweat the mess and spend time with them to the fullest.
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RealtorTTC |
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That these really are the best days of your life. That you will find yourself one day wishing so badly for those times when a little one needed a glass of water, or the little one needed to sleep with mommy because she was afraid........and you will miss the little buttlerfly kisses and hugs and being needed so much. That we spend so much time wishing we could get more rest or get more time alone then one day you would give anything for just one hour of the life you had when your kids were little..........
When my dad told me (after he had a heart attack and found out he had cancer) that he would give up 5 years of his remaining life just to have one day with me and my sister when we were little............that made me cry...........then my grandmother told me that she and my grandad are so lonely........she said that when she was younger she was always so busy washing clothes, cleaning the house, preparing dinner, ironing clothes, giving baths, etc. that she used to wish the kids were a little older so that she could get relief...........now she said her days are filled with quiet rooms, empty spaces and no hugs or kisses from little ones............she said the world is just passing her by and that it breaks her heart to think of how good she had it when her home and arms were full of loving children and that she didnt relish every second of it!!! I remind myself of this every day and realize that Im in the middle of the most fantastic, love filled, energy filled times of my life and that it will NEVER get better than it is right now! My home is filled with 3 loving children who keep me running non stop and I allow myself to feel the warmth and love around me every day.........when I am exhausted I remind myself that I will long for this feeling again one day..........and I tell myself how fortunate I am that my life is so full that I run out of energy..........I look around at little toys that my precious kids play with and I look at the refrigerator and bulletin board filled with pictures and poems they have made for me.........and I look at the little clothes that I fold and put away.......and I look at the little stuffed animals on their bed because I know how much they need to cuddle with those during the night.........and I see the sippy cups for little hands that still need help drinking their chocolate milk.......I see car seats that still hold my precious kids because I want to keep them safe..........I see kids shampoo bottles and faucet covers to protect them while bathing............I see little chairs that little bottoms love to sit in to watch TV..........I look around and I see that I have won better than the lottery............I have hit the jackpot of blessings.......I am so freaking blessed to have these little kids in my life.......... I am so thankful my parents/grandparents have given me their perspective so that I could step back and smell the roses of the garden of childhood!!!
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beth7919 |
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![]() Posts: 35364 09/10/2010 10:59 PM Drew's Mommy!
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oh reece ...that is SO very well said
and i'm so thankful you shared it
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gkmt50 |
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![]() Posts: 50024 09/10/2010 11:33 PM
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Thank you Reece.
![]() I was gonna say "choose your battles" first too. LOL A couple things... someone on CS, maybe it was Moloughney... said that she used to do everything for her son, and he is horrible about helping around the house. But she wised up and had the other ones do chores early so that they wouldn't end up like that... so from then on, I stopped telling the kids they couldn't help me with mommy housework... All I used to want them to do was pick up their mess... but now if one of them wants to help with laundry, I let them. It takes longer, it's never right, it's annoying, but the smiles on their faces is priceless... sort of in the same vein of what Reece was saying, taking time to smell the roses... I try to remember being a kid and being so bored, wanting to do something but not knowing what... so I try to think from their point of view and allow more help. Second thing I like is sometimes when you say no, say yes... meaning... when your child asks for a cookie at 3pm, instead of saying NO!, say "yes you may have a cookie after dinner." I know it sounds dumb to think that it would make a difference since "No, we are having dinner soon" and "yes, after dinner" have nearly the same meaning, but if you have a pre-schooler, try it. Final thing and sorry I was non-committal on just one thing... but offer the child choices (between two things) as much as you can... this is a Love and Logic technique. When it is time to boss them around, remind them that "I have given you a lot of choices today, but this time it's mommy's choice" I almost always avoid a meltdown with this trump card. They really stop and think. Most of this doesn't help you Alicia since Titus is so young... but for his age, yeah, "sleep when baby sleeps" is probably golden! |
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emilie42080 |
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Reece, thank you for your post. Such a good reminder to enjoy our noise-filled days.
<a href="http://bellybelly.com.au/"><img src="http://bellybelly.com.au/t/mXi3IzGmuR.gif" border="0" /></a>
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